The miscommunication trope

I just finished my first read through of Fourth Wing and Iron Flame and while I loved the story as a whole I really could not stand how poorly Violet and Xaden communicate, especially in IF. I keep reminding myself they’re 20-something year olds but my god I was kind of let down after the build up of their relationship in FW to see them become a “couple” and just not get on the same page. I swear I don’t even really care what happens in Onyx Storm so long as they can communicate properly, be open and honest, and (obviously) not die.