Non conservative homeschool survivors?
Basically the title.
I was homeschooled from birth to age 14 (I did three years in public highschool before I graduated early and left home) but I feel like my experience has some similarities and some real differences from some of the other stories I’ve seen mentioned here and I wanted to see if anyone else had the same.
For example a lot of the homeschoolers in my area were all hyper conservative fundamentalist Christians, and I was raised very atheist with some pagan/new age type beliefs as well. It’s interesting though because even though my mom (who was my main guardian my dad wasn’t really in the picture) was fairly leftist I still feel like I had a really isolating and misinformed childhood similar to the more conservative homeschooling experiences.
Like my mom was really staunchly anti-religion, but also insanely over protective. Like I didn’t get vaccinated until I ended up going to public school, and even now I’m in my early 20s but I still don’t have all the vaccines I need because it’s taken so long for me to catch up.
It’s so weird because growing up I had no friends because my mom would aggressively put down the Christian homeschoolers so even when I would hang out with them in a co op or something like that I was trained at home to think they were all idiots, or bigots, or blah blah blah. In doing this too it really ensured I had zero friends growing up because there was always this wall between me and anyone I could have become friends with.
Growing up so staunchly atheist and anti-religion really made it difficult, even now, to relate to experiences of others. Like I never celebrated Christmas or Easter at all, not even a tree or anything Christmas was just another day. We would get pajamas on the winter’s solstice and that was it. I’ve never met anyone else who just was so separated from religion like this and even my atheist but public schooled friends now still celebrated Christmas even a little bit. Or how my mom was atheist but obsessed with other cultures so we would do manifestation stuff, or do Sikh cultural stuff, or practice stuff from Buddhism. It was all really odd. Or how my mom refused to give sex Ed, and even in highschool when they tried to give a sex Ed/drugs and alcohol talk my mom made sure to pull me out of it and refused to let the school make me attend. Even when I was graduating highschool and going to college at 17 I remember referencing some sort of sex joke (I was 17 so it was probably something along the lines of hah hah 69 funny number lol) and my mom was aghast and demanded to know where I learned that. But at the same time as not teaching my about any of that stuff would give me in depth updates about her dating life and the drama with her friends. It was like my mom homeschooled me so she could have a little best friend robot who agreed with her on all of her unorthodox views but would never leave or develop any independence of my own.
Being so isolated from the world at a young age and still having these really odd against the grain beliefs too I think set me up for failure in the same way any other other homeschool experience did. So whenever I see people who claim to be leftist or progressive say that if they want to homeschool it won’t be as bad it just breaks my heart for those kids. Like even though my homeschool experience wasn’t based around fundamentalist religious views, people don’t homeschool generally just for the fun of it or the benefit of the kid. I believe that most homeschool parents do it for the hyper control of their kids or because they have some sort of views that they don’t want their children to not have.
And like I said im in my early 20s now and I cut my mom off years ago but the ramifications of homeschooling still linger, and even as im about to graduate university and get my degree it still affects me.
Anyway a little rant/ vent and also wanting to see if anyone else could relate to this :)