Men Over 30: is this the end?

Hi men, my partner and I have been together for 10+ years. He is 32 and we are still not married. Mainly due to his complete lack of career. After a blue collar gig, He’s trying to “follow his passion” of advanced day trading and hope it turns into income one day. He is working 60 hours a week on this passion project, however for the last year, it’s a 1 income household (I pay for 90% of everything)

We’re best friends, talk every day together, do everything together, families are intertwined, so this stings, but the last 6+ months we have not have sex once, just some soft fooling around. No more date nights since he can’t afford it. He’s constantly under insane stress, self-medicating, and is in waves of depression.

We have talked about this openly, to which he says I have zero drive I am in deep depression, and I am trying so hard to make you happy.

However, I have been miserable since I turned 30. My confidence and happiness is crashing down. It feels like a downward spiral some days. My clock is ticking too.

At some point I need to choose myself, but is there any chance this lasts? Any advice? Ty <3